If you have recently become engaged and read this headline, you must have thought,
“As if !”
But honestly if you follow these easy steps you will come out of this process as a happy, healthy, calm Bride!
You can pick & choose what advice you take to heart:
As soon as you start announcing your engagement you will get a flood of advice from your friends, relatives and even people who spot your new ring bling on the street.
These people are very well meaning and excited for you, but often times their comments and suggestions can cause unneeded stress.
If something someone says causes you anxiety, simply smile and say thank you and then put that thought out of your mind.
This is your wedding and no one knows more about you and what you want than you!
Take a deep breath and know that you are more than capable of making the best decisions for your own wedding.
You don’t have to follow every tradition in the book, nor do you have to wow your guests by being purposely unique and unconventional.
If some new task or suggestion which was brought on by unwelcome advice is really bothering you, take note, by writing it down and then ask your wedding planner.
Which brings me to the next topic…
Ask an Expert:
Use a wedding planner.
These smart, wonderful, organized professionals will be your saviors.
They can take the most vague ideas and turn it into color schemes, table decor, menus, all the while getting their insider discounts, which they will pass onto you.
They also use only the vendors they know they can count on, so any stress about the chairs not being delivered on time or Grandma’s corsage being wilted can melt away.
Although finding a wedding planner might be the first step on your list, you might want to find your venue first and use a planner who has hosted many events at your chosen venue.
Don’t try to rush your planning:
The average length of an engagement is 15 months.
There is no reason to worry about setting a date as soon as the ring has been placed on your finger.
Enjoy being engaged!
You will know when you are ready to start planning.
When you are ready to start planning make sure you give yourself plenty of time.
This should be pretty easy because most of the venues we represent are all booked up a season in advance.
Once you have your wedding venue selected as well as your wedding planner, you are set to move on to the next step.
Stick to your time-line:
There are a ton of resources online where you can create your own time-line.
We even created one here: Wedding Planning Checklist: The Ultimate Guide
Just make sure that you make your time-line manageable and easy to accomplish.
Don’t give yourself a million little tasks to do the week before your wedding.
Spread it out so that the week of your wedding you can relax and enjoy primping and greeting your nearest and dearest as they arrive to celebrate your big day.
Take your time-line and pick the top 5 things that are the most important to you.
Now those top 5 things can be your personal tasks.
5 is a very manageable number and as each of your 5 get checked off the list, you will feel confident and secure in your wedding day plans.
Although it sounds extravagant get a spa day every month.
It can be a massage or a body wrap or something as simple as a manicure.
A great resource is daily deal websites that offer spa treatments at a discount.
Eat well and exercise not just because you want to make sure you fit into that dress, but because this is a great way to work though your stress and not add food guilt to your frame of mind.
A healthy body is a healthy mind and the best way to be stress free is through taking care of yourself.
Let it out:
In case you have a moment and you will….a married or engaged friend or relative will totally be able to identify.
Don’t try to hold in any frustration that planning may induce because chances are it happened to your recently married bestie.
Another source of sympathy are wedding boards.
This is a great way to talk with people who are going through the same things you are going through.
But be careful because misery loves company.
Don’t get sucked into dreariness, but vent and let it go!
In the end…
In the end, a minimal amount of stress is to be expected while you are planning your wedding, but if the result is you and your fiance becoming man and wife than it was a success.
If you keep that in mind, any other worry will be water off your back.
It will be one of the most memorable days of your life if only for fact that it’s the day you became the wife to the man of your dreams.
Do you have any tips to add?
Please share in the comments…
About the Author
Cynthia is the Director of Membership Services at Estate Weddings and Events. She is dedicated to help the members of EWE showcase their beautiful properties and excited by all feedback, both positive and negative about the member experience. You can follow her here Linkedin or Google+.